How do you Respond to Uncontrollable Situations?

How do you respond to uncontrollable situations

Two weeks ago I started clearing the kitchen ready for decorating. I had successfully piled most of the contents of the kitchen up in the dining room and had cleared the decks to start painting the following day.

The next morning I reached in to turn on the shower and somehow, in that simple, often repeated movement, I did something very painful to my back. Ouch! No painting for me.

So, basically, I had a clear plan and unexpected events threw a spanner in the works – nothing new there. I am guessing that many of you are experiencing something similar with the weather at the moment. You had a clear plan to go to work, meet friends or take the children to school but suddenly, snow happened, quickly followed by storm Emma. The roads are treacherous, schools are closed and your plans are thwarted. Chaos abounds.

What happens next depends on you.

Can you live with the chaos? Or do you feel a need to impose order on an uncontrollable situation? What happens when you can’t?

A quick look at social media tells me everything I need to know about the range of responses people make to a forced change in circumstances. Those who embrace it are out having fun, sledging and playing in the snow. Others have taken the opportunity to batten down the hatches and relax by the fire. There are people who are determined that a bit of weather won’t stop them so they get in their cars and carry on regardless (some of them succeeded, some of them made the situation worse for themselves and others). Some people focussed on helping the lonely, the old, the homeless and the generally vulnerable. Some people moaned. A lot.  They got angry with the “stupid snow” and with everybody else.

We can learn a lot about ourselves from the way we respond when we aren’t completely in control.

As for me, the kitchen remains unpainted, the dining room is still in chaos. I have felt frustrated at times but a bad back has also been an opportunity to sit by the fire, to read, to write and to plan. I have had time to think which, these days, can be something of a luxury. The pain is receding now (hurrah) so I’ll get on with the painting – carefully.

What about you? What strategies do you use when the world decides that it’s time to shake things up a bit? Are you a moaner or a do-er? How resilient are you when the chips are down?

Please let me know how you responded to the challenges the weather brought this week. I would love to hear your stories.

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